Monday, March 4, 2019

BIG NEWS!


March 4, 2016 is the day that my world changed. You entered into my life and home as a timid little boy and three years later your personality is shining though as a vivacious, intelligent, athletic, resilient, affectionate, and hilarious boy who loves to take his socks off in the car to see if I will faint; leaves his pesky “boogers” soccer turf pellets all over the house and fills our house with endless hours of laughter.

Three years ago I walked into your life as “May” and on the days when you want something badly I can catch you calling me “Mom” or on good days when you feel safe I find you testing out “Ma” and my insides smiles as you explore what feels right to you … and for that moment I know your insides feel safe. Kiddo I get it; the damage is done. People came into your world and then they left for over 7 years. That word “Mom” is tainted. Tainted with hurt, fear, pain and loss. I have never, nor will I ever push you to be anything but your true authentic self. You have had to fake it for so many years…but not anymore, not when you are finally home. This journey you are on is yours and I am so blessed and thankful that I now get to join you in it.

 Three years ago, the world around me knew you as either my third or first foster child and you were introduced to my world as AJ “Absolute Joy”.  Today, I feel like it is the right timing to announce to the world that the Family has grown by 1. Meet my son Oscar!!! Oscar chose his name when adoption time came, and it fits so perfectly for him. He was and is a champion warrior in my eyes and in so many others. It took far too long and a lot of obstacles and barriers, but I am so glad that you have finally found a place to call home. Although you didn’t get to choose this path and I would have never wanted you to have to have gone through all that you have, I hope home is the safe refuge you desired for so long. Oscar, I don’t have the answers on why all of this had to happen, but I do believe that we serve a mighty God and I know 100% that God will make beauty out of the ashes and take every tear and sorrow in your life to bring forth joy, purpose, and glory to His name. I wake up many mornings wondering how lucky I am to have you in my life and that I get to call you my son. When you were 7, you would shout from the bedroom “I love you to Uranus and back times infinity and beyond!” and I would giggle and say you win (for loving me the biggest). Now that you are older, that statement will never change in this household! Oscar, “I love you to Uranus and back times infinity and beyond” and now you are the one that giggles. I look forward to seeing all that God has for you and filling the jars of sorrow with much, much, much more laughter, giggles, and lifelong fun memories.




I think I am going to keep this blog more for discussions on fostering and adoption rather than our family pics and stories. If you want to follow our personal life or see more photos in the future, follow us on Instagram @ may2macao

Thanks everyone!!
Love the Amayzing Family

Thursday, June 15, 2017

Fostering is Worth It…It Really Is

I walked away from AJ’s room last night with tears streaming down my face. He has just fallen asleep and it is what we would call a “Yellow” night. It wasn’t horrible but it also wasn’t one of our best night.  We all have these days as parents and with our kids but when you have a foster kid who is having these days but lets you in just a little into their chaotic minds and worlds, it is like Christmas morning with the tree full of presents! 

It is bedtime and I explain to AJ that is it is time for bed and he blurts out “I AM MAD AT YOU!” He is mad because we didn’t get to open a package that is sitting in the living room unopened because his chores weren’t done as requested, prompted, and presented the options/results of good vs bad choices. I thanked him for expressing how he felt and telling me and asked him to go ahead and get ready for bed. He stomps upstairs and asks if I will tuck him in and I said “Of course sweetie” in which I get the response “BUT I AM STILL MAD AT YOU” as he continues to stomp up the stairs and into the bathroom. J

When I get upstairs to tuck him in, he is pouting and mumbling under his breath and then shouts “I AM STILL MAD AT YOU….GET OUT!!!!!” I calmly thanked him again for telling me how he feels and said that I would leave if he wants me to or we can sit together with these big feelings until he feels better…AND THIS YOU GUYS IS THE VICTORY! AJ mumbles “Fine…Whatever” You see he normally would demand I leave his room, scream, or decide to express himself in other manners…but tonight…tonight he allowed me to sit with him…and I did just that until he fell asleep. Tonight for the first time, he felt safe enough to allow me in…into the Big Feelings that is going on in his tiny body and mind and that my friend feels like I just won the gold medal in a marathon at the Olympics or it is Christmas morning! So I sat as he fell asleep with tears streaming down…my heart growing 3 times that day for him… for his courage and vulnerability to let me in at that moment…and pure thankfulness to Jesus. Walking this journey is not for the faint of heart but this moment right here right now….makes it all worth it! Thank you AJ for sharing this moment with me, I love you to Uranus and back times infinity and beyond ;)

Thursday, December 8, 2016

October

We had such a fun month celebrating Halloween. I finally got to see one of my best friends from college and she brought her family up to Seattle for a short but lovely visit. We went to a pumpkin patch and got to do a hayride and pick out some pumpkins. AJ picked up a 30.48lb pumpkin and we carved it. I learned that this was his 1st time getting to carve a pumpkin and as the pictures below show, he clearly and thankfully walked away with all 10 fingers!
AJ couldn't pick which costume he wanted so I caved and he got to be both Flash and Captain America. We went to a trunk or treat and then headed to a friends house. My favorite memory from this month was watching him trick or treat across the neighborhood. He would go to a house and then come running down the driveway shouting "May May I got a snickers bar!" We would proceed to the next house and he would come running back "May May I got 2 M&Ms!!" and this continued for the whole hour and 15 minutes that we were out. I learned that night it was his first time going door to door and it was truly a special moment and time to get to share with him.
Soccer continued to take over our calendar but this boy LOVES HIS SOCCER. The sounders continued to dominant the field and at the end of October was still undefeated. The picture below was on a very, very cold and rainy Saturday and the boys all huddled trying to stay warm. ADORABLE!










September

The month of September speaks volumes of how kids are resilient and how incredible AJ is. This month was about transition galore. He started his new before/after school care, new school, new soccer team, and a new counselor. GASP I know! He was so incredible though. Below is his first day in 2nd grade! He loves his new school and his teacher Miss Smith. I asked what he liked about her and he said "she is nice and give us candy!" Guess this teacher knows how to win his heart in an instant.

If you could only see his face - STICKING HIS TONGUE OUT once again ;)


His soccer team this season was pretty epic. The kids were all very good and his coach was a phenomenal teacher. AJ was looking forward to the season with the Sounders and practicing the ball skills he had been learning all summer.
Looking back, I would say that September was a month of astonishment and immense proudness. AJ blew me away left and right and just rolled with the punches. Love you my big second grader!

Monday, November 21, 2016

This is what Summers are made of...

August was a month of visitors, trips, and lots of fun!

My high school best friend and best friend in law came to Seattle for their annual visit. Last year in the middle of their stay was when I got the call for my previous placements...now this year they are coming and got to meet AJ. AJ I think was attached to them before they even came to visit. I was given a Wii and their names are plastered all over the games...so I think AJ already established a connection and was calling them Uncle Ben and Auntie Kari (Kira) from the start. They accepted their new role with open arms and happy hearts and it brings tears to my eyes to just think of all the people God has surrounded AJ with. He truly is so loved by His Father and so many people here in Seattle and around the world.  We took a road trip around the Olympic Peninsula and had a grand old time. He had an incredible time seeing the falls, learning to skip rocks with Uncle Ben, staring at the enormous trees that God has grown, and just getting out of the city for a bit.









My Dad also came to visit. AJ loved showing off his soccer skills and having a person who sided with him...that's what grandparents are supposed to do right? Drive their kids nuts and spoil the grandkids ;) Thank you Dad for loving on him, he enjoys you!

Summer wouldn't be complete without nights at the park, getting soaking wet at a splash pad, and bdays parties. This was his 1st time roller skating and after numerous falls catching his fall and trying to catch him I caved and got him a walker....They definitely didn't have those when I was growing up!!



SUMMER YOU ARE BEEN WONDERFUL!!!




Sunday, November 20, 2016

July Fun!



4th of July - Bubbles, music, sword fighting, Fireworks, and 11:30pm rolling down a hill


6 weeks in and he is finally not sinking...well mostly! So proud of his hard work
BFF visiting - Making S'mores

June

This month was wrapping up his 1st grade year and getting into the swing of Summer.  I just wanted to create some type of summer normalcy and a memorable summer for AJ...

Kung Fu Panda at the beach with a spontaneous swim afterwards. Great way to start the summer! 

Introduction to Kinder toys flown from South Africa (Courtesy of Petronia)


Summer Sports under way - Project Don't Drop Like A Rock And Get Eaten By A Shark was under way. Sounder Soccer Camp, and learning how to jump curbs on a bike :)